Stop asking women “Why didn’t you leave?”

Why didn’t you leave?”
Why didn’t you leave sooner?”
Why did you wait so long to leave?”
It couldn’t have been that bad if you stayed with him for 10 years.”

All of these types of questions and statements are a form of victim blaming and victim shaming. It needs to end. Instead, we should be asking the abuser,

“Why did you gaslight her into staying with you for so long?”
“Why did you physically and verbally abuse her?”
“Why did you try to control her and dominate her?”
“Why did you continue to love bomb and abuse her in a cycle of domestic violence that kept her in a relationship with you for so long?”

Gayle King asks FKA Twigs why she didn’t leave her abuser sooner